Honestly I dislike the word victim. It is disempowering. When one is considered a victim (other than the need to label it for the purposes of law enforcement or court proceedings) that individual has been stripped of their personal power and it saddens me, especially if that individual has self-identified as such. What do they perceive to gain from labeling themselves a victim, someone without power? What is the benefit in that? I think there are better ways to attain attention or sympathy or pity or whatever else can be gained from being perceived as a victim, but I do understand that perhaps some individuals don’t know how to ask for what they need or want.
My opinion concerning “victims” is something I’ve had for years and over this time I have been told by that by having this opinion and writing blogs or speaking about it in videos, I am engaging in victim blaming and have been discouraged and berated for participating in this behavior. I am not placing blame on anyone; neither the perceived or self-identified “victim” nor the “real” or imagined “perpetrator” because placing blame suggests that someone or something is at fault and that is not how I view things. Fault suggests responsibility. We are all responsible. Every single one of us is responsible for where we are, what we experience, and how we feel about it all. We are responsible for ourselves; our behaviors, our thoughts, our words, and our feelings about them.
I’ve been asked, “So, any woman who was raped is responsible for it? She asked to be raped?”
My response is this; “No, she is not responsible for the rape. She is responsible for her own actions, her own words, her own decisions that lead her to the situation that eventually lead to the rape.”
I place no blame. I place no judgment on her actions. I don’t know her story; I don’t know and can never know what motivates her decisions or choices. I don’t know what she feels or how she thinks.
I honestly think that we, as a society, attempt to simplify things that are truly complex situations. We look at the end result as the whole situation when clearly that isn’t the case. There is usually more to the story than we know, but yet we convince ourselves that we know “the truth”. We can’t possibly know what has gone on within the life of someone else in any given situation because we are not them, we haven’t and can never live “in their shoes” to gain the complete understanding of what they are thinking and feeling or what motivates their decisions.
As Witch we are not victims. I dare say that someone who embraces their own sovereignty cannot truly be a victim because that individual embraces their power and their ability to manifest what they desire. If a Witch identifies as a victim then how are they aligned with their power? How are they manifesting?
Witch know thyself!
For another post on Victim Blaming click HERE.