An example of how I did this would be when discussing the overall concept of The
You see, I found it difficult to judge another person’s actions and behaviors because I am not them. I did not live their life experience and couldn’t truly appreciate their perspective. We all have motives for our actions even if we don’t recognize them in ourselves because they are hidden deep within our unconscious mind. Our motives may simply be to do what someone else has told us to do because somewhere in our own mind we believe that they know what is best for us … more so than we do. Perhaps our motive originates with what we are told by: our government, our society, our culture, our family, our friends, our co-workers, the media … whomever. Who am I to judge you and your motives? You have your personal reasons to do what you feel you should do and I respected that. And I loved you for it because you are being true to you.
“I love you," and “I am perfectly me and you are perfectly you,” – these were my mantras.
That was weeks ago. Since then something has shifted for me. I find it increasingly difficult to find those positive characteristics in people when faced with their destructive and callous behaviors. I can’t seem to shift back to the perspective that I held and this saddens me to tears. It seems that somewhere along the way I lost my faith.
I lost my faith in humanity.
Now when someone shares with me a story of how someone acted in spite or malice or from a place of simple thoughtlessness I can’t seem to find redeeming qualities in them any longer. My unyielding belief in the “goodness” in people seems to have yielded. I don’t have the energy to stand up for the potential in humanity any more and I realize it is because I’ve been disappointed by too many people too many times. While my expectations were clearly stated and (it seemed) agreed upon by the other individuals they were repeatedly not met. I have kept the lines of communication open and made myself as available as I could possibly be but it seems that others just cannot fulfill the commitments. The repeated experience has left me disenchanted with humanity. Our love affair is over and I am in the grieving process.
“People suck” is my new mantra.
It has been suggested to me that with the New Age movement this type of situation is occurring more frequently (and not only to me). Individuals make commitments that they intend to keep but then when they are encouraged to follow their "Authentic Self" or their “Life’s Purpose” or “True Will” they drop the original commitment as it no longer aligns with their vision irregardless of what that means to the one they made that original commitment to. We are constantly urged to “follow your bliss” and pay no mind to what others think. Believe me when I say that I get it. I do, but I think that while people are “following their bliss” they are missing something important: personal integrity.
When we give our word – we’ve made a promise or a vow.
“Yes.” It is a single word that translates to a more complex statement of agreement or acceptance of conditions or expectations.
For example, if I ask my son, “Will you take out the trash?”
And he responds, “Yes.”
Then both my son and I understand that he will take out the trash. The expectation is set that he will fulfill what he agreed to do which in this example is to take out the trash. He has made an agreement with me; a promise.
We all know that our words hold power and in the magickal community, that idea is one of the fundamental Laws of Magick. When we say or write something we’ve set out an intention to manifest. So, if we don’t mean what we say, then we shouldn’t be saying it.
In the above example of the conversation between my son and I, if my son had no intention of taking out the trash his response shouldn’t have been, "Yes." But rather, "No." It is really as simple as that. No false expectation has been set. He said what he meant and meant what he said.
Once we’ve said something, it is important to take personal responsibility for our words and the expectations we’ve set and if we’re unable to fulfill the promise, we shouldn’t be shifting blame to others or making excuses for why we didn’t do what we agreed upon, that sort of behavior will erode our credibility and if repeated enough our words won’t hold the power they once did, for a witch or magickal practitioner that could mean the hindrance or lack of manifestation.
Will my faith in humanity be restored? I don’t know.
What I have realized is that it is important for me at this point in my spiritual journey to no longer put all my energy into relationships, projects, and other situations that are not an equal energetic exchange for me. In the past I had confidence that the energetic return would eventually happen and I would just keep expending energy into the relationship, project or situation but now I realize it was just a fantasy. My head is now out of the clouds, I’ve come back down to earth and taken off my rose colored glasses and can see what the "reality" is and that, ladies and gentlemen is simply …