LunaWillow presents some questions that I think truly deserve some attention because love is such a complex, overwhelming, and sometimes confusing human emotion to have. Although I believe it is more than an emotion. I believe love to be an experience. It is something we live, not just feel. It is an energetic vibrational energy that connects all humanity to one another. It
Love is spiritual.
Love is pure.
Love is organic.
Love is Divine.
The Bible states in 1John 4:8, “The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love.” And I believe this to be true. When we experience joy accompanied by an overwhelming desire to express that joy … that is what love feels like. It is that feeling that begins within you and builds so that it is nearly impossible to contain. It motivates the artist to create, the vocalist to sing, the author to write, the child to giggle and laugh. Yes, I am aware that scientists have explained that this exhilarating human emotion is an irresistible cocktail of chemicals (adrenaline, cortisol, dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin and vasopressin) that our brain excretes so that we “fall in love” … and who am I to counter that argument? But I cannot disregard the energetic or spiritual connection that is present when full experiencing and appreciating love.
The word “love” is so vague in the English language and I don’t believe that it accurately describes the vibrations of energetic connection that love encompasses. As I said … love is such a complex, overwhelming, and sometimes confusing human emotion. Love can be used to describe: affection for someone (I love my Mom.), a pleasure that an individual enjoys (I love playing Skyrim.), an attraction or attachment to something or someone (I love chocolate.) or (I love my husband.), or a virtue (Love one another.). I think that the Ancient Greeks may have had a better understanding or at least definition to differentiate between the different vibrations of love. “Storge” describes the kinship or familiarity between people; “philia” identifies friend and family relations, “eros” is used to describe sexual or romantic desire while “agape” is used when referring to Divine love.
I believe that when we actually experience love and are honest with ourselves, we are able to experience love in all its complexities – all vibrations: possibly fluctuating between them. This explains how relationships that may begin what appears to be simply a sexual attraction can grow and be nurtured into a different vibrational frequency. Because love is organic, it is not static or stagnant and as any other experience it shifts and changes. With attention and nurturing love will mature as it grows. Honesty and vulnerability are the keys to love and relationships.
The Universal Law of Attraction applies to every experience we have here on the physical plane of existence including relationships. At first glance it may appear that opposites attract however, I would suggest that even in a relationship where this might seem to be true it is only the surface characteristics that are opposite but the point of focus of both individuals is their point of similarity. Have I confused you here?
Let me illustrate:
Let’s say there is a couple named, Sam and Alex. Sam is a vegetarian, Wiccan, who reads spiritual focused books, tends a beautiful herb garden in the yard, stays up until the early hours of morning and sleeps late into the afternoon. Alex is a meat eating, atheist, who barely reads a menu but constantly watches TV in their air conditioned apartment, rises at dawn and crawls into their bed around ten in the evening. Anyone who knows the couple would think that they were opposites. How could such a relationship sustain the ten years that it had? There must be some sort of magick binding the couple, right? What we don’t see because we are merely observers of the relationship is their shared point of focus. If we were close friends of the couple we might just discover that both Sam and Alex believe in: supporting animal rights and the LGBTQ community, that family traditions are important, and that relationships mean more than wealth.
I also believe that while it is inevitable (and important) to have a shared point of focus it is completely healthy and beneficial for the well-being of each individual involved in the relationship to maintain their own individual personality. I have so often met individuals who “lost” their identity, that sense of “who I am”, once they became involved in a romantic relationship. (This same “loss” can occur when individuals enter a friendship though in my experience the occurrences are fewer in number.) They stopped being Sam and became Alex’s girlfriend. And if the union brought forth children they became Jo’s Mom. Sam was lost in the vibrational shift of the relationship. The “lost” individual often begins feeling frustrated, angry, depressed, and even resentment. Resentment towards all involved in the relationship and this often brings forth feelings of guilt. This isn’t the experience of love.
Another illustration of what may appear to be opposites attract:
Here we have a couple: Pat and Max. Pat is timid and passive. The idea of conflict makes Pat so anxious that she becomes physically sick but because she is so set against getting involved in a relationship with someone like her Dad, who is aggressive and domineering, this has become her unconscious point of focus. Max is loud, confrontational, and controlling. He is focused mostly on himself and not anyone else’s needs or desires. He isn’t actively seeking a relationship but is opened to one if the opportunity presents itself. Because their point of focus is the same: Pat is focused on someone like her Dad and Max on himself, these two individuals attract each other into their life experience.
The likelihood of this relationship maintaining for long is dependent on the individuals involved. If either is working on becoming the better version of themselves by releasing fear and resistance to their True Will they will shift their own vibrational frequency and fall out of alignment with the other individual. Sometimes, however, these types of relationships can last a lifetime but I would suggest that it isn’t a love experience. It is based on a foundation of the opposite vibration: one of fear.