The love that is spoken about in “perfect love” is divine love or agape. It is righteous, good and non-sexual. It is the love of God Herself; the love for the sacred being that each of us hold within us and that is connected to all that is living as well as deity. It is unconditional and knows what lies beyond our imperfect human flaws and weaknesses to what lays within our Higher Self.
I am sure you’ve heard the phrase, “Well, I love her but I don’t like her.” I’ve even used it myself in the past. At first the phrase may sound positive and loving but truly, it isn’t. It is love with conditions. It is not perfect love. It is an example of a love that hesitates and holds back. Perhaps the individual who uses this phrase has understandable reasons for holding back their love. I’m not here to judge anyone. What I am here to point out is that the phrase is not perfect love. Perfect love states, “I love her. I love her for the sacred being that she is. And I like that sacred being.”
Now what is “perfect trust”? Perfect trust blossoms from perfect love. It is assurance that those we share Circle with have the ability, the strength and the confidence of someone we desire to be intimate with because to share our sacred space with another is to be intimate with them. These others are honest, truthful and follow through with their words. Trust involves giving of ourselves, taking risks and bonding with those who stand with us. Lacking confidence in our abilities or the abilities of others or being fearful of them is not trust in any form. Perfect trust – flawless trust is something that is built over time with experiences and interactions with the ones we work with in Circle again this includes ourselves.
So when you recite “I enter the Circle in perfect love and perfect trust.” be sure that you believe the words you speak. If you find that you don’t, then perhaps you should reflect on the relationships you have with those you are entering Circle with.