"Are we dealing with the Shadows of others when we deal with judgement from others? Are their Shadows being forced upon us?"
I wished I could have been watching when the stream was live because I would have shared my thoughts then, but I wasn't so I will share them here in a blog post.
The simple answer to these questions is “No.”
We deal with other people’s Shadows only when they are the same Shadows that we possess. We are mirrors for others and they are mirrors for us. If we feel as if someone is judging our weight, it is because we are judging our own weight. We have some sort of insecurity about it. If we feel as if someone is judging our behavior, then it is because we are judging our own behavior. When we are experiencing the judgement of others, it is because they are reflecting back to us that which is our own Shadows.
People cannot force their own Shadows upon us, because just as an actual physical shadow that we cast upon the ground cannot become unattached to us or become attached to someone else, this is not the story of Peter Pan; we do not live in that fairytale, your psyche’s Shadow cannot be forced or attached to another’s psyche. Only those behaviors, circumstances, situations, conditions, words, and actions that are a vibrational match to us are what we experience. We MUST be a vibrational match to something in order for us to experience it or for it to manifest into our life experiences. Nothing can be forced upon us.
If we feel that we are dealing with judgement that we do not deserve, if we feel that we are dealing with things we do not want, it is because we are focused on those things in our own lives. They most certainly may be things we would never chose to experience consciously, but for some reason we are focused on them now. We are emotionally feeding those thoughts within ourselves, which is why we are experiencing them. We have attached ourselves to them and have now manifested them in our life. Realizing this will aid us in readjusting our perspective and rooting out the Shadows and integrating them within ourselves.