There has been a great deal of discussion about enabling and how it is “bad” to enable others and why it needs to stop if we are going to make a change in the state of the world. And while I understand the sentiment behind these words I find myself asking why is enabling someone an undesired behavior? I think the word is associated with bad connotations when in fact the word itself is not “bad” or “negative” or “unhealthy”.
Enable as defined by the Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary is to make (someone or something) able to do or to be something, to make something possible, practical, or easy. A synonym for enable is allow.
So with the definition of enabling in your mind, let me present you with a few questions to contemplate. Why is it “bad” to make someone able to do or be something they desire? How is it “unhealthy” to make something possible for someone? When did allowing someone to experience something that they desire or perhaps even need in order to become a better version of themself become a “negative” thing?
Enable as defined by the Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary is to make (someone or something) able to do or to be something, to make something possible, practical, or easy. A synonym for enable is allow.
So with the definition of enabling in your mind, let me present you with a few questions to contemplate. Why is it “bad” to make someone able to do or be something they desire? How is it “unhealthy” to make something possible for someone? When did allowing someone to experience something that they desire or perhaps even need in order to become a better version of themself become a “negative” thing?
Personally I do my best to enable the people I associate with to do whatever it is they want to do with their life even if I may not agree with their choices. Yes, I may share my opinions, thoughts, and ideas about their decision, but in the end I recognize that it is their decision to make – not mine. Being someone’s friend is to be a support for them as they experience life and sometimes it can be confusing and complex and emotional. There are times that what we think we want isn’t what we want, but why does that have to be judged as ”good” or “bad”? Why can’t it just be?
Our life time on this physical plane of existence is about experimentation. Our life experiences are about experiencing that contrast; the “good” and “bad”, the “light” and “dark”. Our physical realm will never experience a time when contrast is not present. There has always been and will always be the two vibrational frequencies of fear and love because that is the spectrum of the physical plane. On one end of the spectrum is fear and on the opposite is love; the majority of humanity fluctuates between the two as we experience the energetic vibrational polarity of this physical plane and it is because of this constant shift within the spectrum of fear and love, there will never be “peace on Earth”; that was not the purpose for the creation of this plane of existence. Here we are meant to experience the polarity, the wonderful variety of contrast available on Earth, all of which lead to our personal spiritual development and therefore the expansion of the Universe. We will not experience global peace, but what there can be and what I believe we consciously or unconsciously strive for, is spiritual development, growth, and enlightenment. We strive to ascend the physical experience and become one with the God Herself (deity). We yearn for that spiritual harmony and peace that is attained beyond the physical realm. This is what personal spiritual ascension and the ascension of the human race is about, the raising our energetic vibration to find peace and tranquility, the next human evolution.
Our lifetime on Earth is about experiencing the spectrum of contrast allowing us to spiritually develop, but if I decide to judge something as “good” or “bad” for another that is my perception and may not be the "reality" of the situation for that individual and their personal spiritual growth and ascension. As difficult as it may be for us to understand, sometimes it is most beneficial for an individual soul to experience suffering in order to better understand the polarity of suffering, which is ease. It is about experiencing “hate” to understand “love” and in having these experiences sometimes it is necessary, like the phoenix to self-destruct in order to be reborn from the ashes. To cure cancer, one must destroy those cancer cells. Kill to heal.
There are times when the only thing that one human being can offer another when they are in the midst of a challenge or obstacle in their life experience is energetic or emotional support in hopes that it will inspire or enable the challenged individual to find a solution to their current circumstance. Human beings are more than physical bodies; we are energetic beings that vibrate and transmute and it is because of this that energetic or emotional support from another human being can facilitate an individual transformation if that individual is open and ready for such a shift to occur within them. This process may take time, but clarity can be gained from allowing time to pass and honestly “feeling” and “being” in the specific vibrational frequency. Too often many individual emotionally respond to a situation without considering the consequences of their thoughts, words, or actions and depending on a person’s life experience, he or she may benefit from allowing their emotions to subside before making a conscious decision on how to proceed. Clarity can lead to new perspectives and can allow for inspired changed to occur.
Not everyone incarnated on this Earth is meant to be a support for (or to enable) those individuals going through seemingly self-destructive life experiences. Not everyone is born to this physical life to be an advocate for others and that in and of itself is neither “good” or “bad”; it just is what is. Those of us who are aware that this is their life’s purpose for this incarnation know that this is their calling and to others who perceive or actions as “bad” or “negative” or “unhealthy” enabling, truly do not understand what it is we were incarnated to do. It is an honor to be an advocate for someone who is in the process of personal spiritual ascension and becoming.
Our life time on this physical plane of existence is about experimentation. Our life experiences are about experiencing that contrast; the “good” and “bad”, the “light” and “dark”. Our physical realm will never experience a time when contrast is not present. There has always been and will always be the two vibrational frequencies of fear and love because that is the spectrum of the physical plane. On one end of the spectrum is fear and on the opposite is love; the majority of humanity fluctuates between the two as we experience the energetic vibrational polarity of this physical plane and it is because of this constant shift within the spectrum of fear and love, there will never be “peace on Earth”; that was not the purpose for the creation of this plane of existence. Here we are meant to experience the polarity, the wonderful variety of contrast available on Earth, all of which lead to our personal spiritual development and therefore the expansion of the Universe. We will not experience global peace, but what there can be and what I believe we consciously or unconsciously strive for, is spiritual development, growth, and enlightenment. We strive to ascend the physical experience and become one with the God Herself (deity). We yearn for that spiritual harmony and peace that is attained beyond the physical realm. This is what personal spiritual ascension and the ascension of the human race is about, the raising our energetic vibration to find peace and tranquility, the next human evolution.
Our lifetime on Earth is about experiencing the spectrum of contrast allowing us to spiritually develop, but if I decide to judge something as “good” or “bad” for another that is my perception and may not be the "reality" of the situation for that individual and their personal spiritual growth and ascension. As difficult as it may be for us to understand, sometimes it is most beneficial for an individual soul to experience suffering in order to better understand the polarity of suffering, which is ease. It is about experiencing “hate” to understand “love” and in having these experiences sometimes it is necessary, like the phoenix to self-destruct in order to be reborn from the ashes. To cure cancer, one must destroy those cancer cells. Kill to heal.
There are times when the only thing that one human being can offer another when they are in the midst of a challenge or obstacle in their life experience is energetic or emotional support in hopes that it will inspire or enable the challenged individual to find a solution to their current circumstance. Human beings are more than physical bodies; we are energetic beings that vibrate and transmute and it is because of this that energetic or emotional support from another human being can facilitate an individual transformation if that individual is open and ready for such a shift to occur within them. This process may take time, but clarity can be gained from allowing time to pass and honestly “feeling” and “being” in the specific vibrational frequency. Too often many individual emotionally respond to a situation without considering the consequences of their thoughts, words, or actions and depending on a person’s life experience, he or she may benefit from allowing their emotions to subside before making a conscious decision on how to proceed. Clarity can lead to new perspectives and can allow for inspired changed to occur.
Not everyone incarnated on this Earth is meant to be a support for (or to enable) those individuals going through seemingly self-destructive life experiences. Not everyone is born to this physical life to be an advocate for others and that in and of itself is neither “good” or “bad”; it just is what is. Those of us who are aware that this is their life’s purpose for this incarnation know that this is their calling and to others who perceive or actions as “bad” or “negative” or “unhealthy” enabling, truly do not understand what it is we were incarnated to do. It is an honor to be an advocate for someone who is in the process of personal spiritual ascension and becoming.
